Addressing Same Sex Couples on Envelopes

Nailing down your guest list is hard work. Unfortunately, the work doesn't stop there! Now that you have your guest list narrowed down, it's time to figure out how to properly address your guests. I've already walked you through traditional etiquette and Military social etiquette but what about same sex couples? Stumped? No worries, I've got your back!

Married but use different surnames
List each name out fully and put them in alphabetical order by surname. The same format applies for unmarried same-sex couples.

Mrs. Jane Doe and Mrs. Allison Evans
1234 Green Field Lane
Chicago, Illinois 60604

Mr. John Smith and Mr. William Thompson
6352 Scenic View Circle
Saint Louis, Missouri 63109

Married and both use the same last name
List each name out fully and put them in alphabetical order by first name. The same format applies for hyphenated names.

Mrs. Allison Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe
1234 Green Field Lane
Chicago, Illinois 60604

Mr. John Smith and Mr. William Smith
6352 Scenic View Circle
Saint Louis, Missouri 63109

Exceptions
The only exceptions to the above format are when:

1. If you are sending an invitation to one person and including the second person as a guest, then list the person you are inviting first on the envelope.
2. If one person outranks the other (Doctor, Judge, Military, etc.), their name should be listed first. For example:
The Honorable James Smith and Mr. Henry Adams
1234 Walnut Way Drive
Nashville, Tennessee 37115

On Three Word to the Wise: With both parties full names listed out, it can be difficult to fit both names on one line. In this case, the second name will be listed directly below the first in alphabetical order as shown above.

Happy Addressing!

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